I spent the first day of this week driving back…
I’m fairly sure every single person who is about to have weight loss surgery goes into the operating theatre with a small fear that they are going to be the first person in the world to undergo weight loss surgery and not lose any weight, not a single gram. I have no idea if this has ever happened, I’m fairly sure not, but please know you are not alone in this worry.
The neverending cycle of weight loss and regain that I think most weight loss surgery patients have had in their lives leading up to bariatric surgery almost gets to the point of convincing us that we’re useless and will never be able to lose and maintain weight loss, even with surgery. We get so conditioned by the experience we have had with our weight in the past that we basically expect ourselves to fail and be no good at this too.
I’m fairly confident that whatever happens you will lose weight after surgery. In the first six or so months or so there is not going to be very much you could do to stop it even if you wanted to. Your brain will try and tell you there’s a small chance that losing nothing will actually happen to you but don’t let yourself listen to it. Please let me assure you that this worry has a life expectancy and in the first couple of weeks after surgery you will realise you were really worrying about nothing.
A few weeks after surgery when you start weighing yourself and see that you have indeed lost weight you then start to worry that your weight loss is going to stop at any time. Seriously, our brains are jerks and try and mess us around as much as they possibly can. Bariatric surgery is not easy and the results are not guaranteed. You need to make sure you do what you know you need to and to look after yourself as much as possible to make sure you get the best results you can.
My best piece of advice is to try not to fall into negative thought patterns. It’s too easy to criticise ourselves, doubt ourselves and tell ourselves that we’re useless. You can do this, you are worth every great thing that will come of it and you are so strong and courageous for deciding to take the steps you have to claim back your health and be able to live your life at full capacity again. Be your own biggest cheerleader first because if you’re not backing yourself you can’t expect anyone else to.
Part of building new good and healthy habits post-op revolves around the head stuff and the things you tell yourself. Start practiscing it before your surgery and it will be more natural and will come easier post-op when things get a bit hard and confronting in the first few weeks after bariatric surgery. Trust the process, your body will do some crazy stuff and will slow down when you least expect it to but don’t expect failure or the worst for yourself.
Did you have this worry leading up to bariatric surgery too? Comment below and let me know I’d like to see how common it really is.